Communication and silence

Communication and silence

What are you really saying?

What others are saying?

I just understood the meaning of silence. I understood that by being forced to explain to my clients the importance of not talking.

I am not referring here to shut up your mouth and to put the lit over your fury, I am referring to real peace of mind, that mind that is not judging, that is not trying to control other, that is not taking everything personal, that is not assuming that people is not choosing against others and they choose for themselves, that mind that accept what is happening without needing the explanations.

Dalai Lama said “When you talk, you are only repeating what you already know. But if you listen, you may learn something”

I found out two examples that I hope will help most of the people understand how to achieve peace of mind

Let’s imagine the fall is coming. In this moment you have at least two big choices (I don’t enter in more details):

one is to reject the idea by complaining and changing your mood, enter in depression or becoming furious that it ruins your plans, that you will freeze, you will have to put more clothes on or you will have to change car tires…

the second one is to remain silence and to adopt all the changes you need to do in order to make your life as comfortable it can be. It doesn’t mean that you suffer in silence, it means that you are present and in communion with everything that is.

It’s a matter of choice, what do you choose?

Communion means communication. Communication means listening, seeing, feeling… using all your senses. In neuro-linguistic programming we learn about VAGOK which means visual, aural, gustatory, olfactory, kinesthetic. I would ad the six sense, the COMON SENSE.

Common sense is the knowing, perceiving, being present, being aware and staying in the question.

And staying in the question means that you don’t live from all the conclusion projections, judgements, decisions that you took long time ago, and that you actually ask yourself what is your real choice in the present moment.

What am I capable of that I’m not choosing?

What would I like to create as my life, and, what do I have to do to get there? 

What is this person going to contribute with? What am I going to contribute with? How is this going to work? How is this going to make both of our lives better?

What would I like to create today? 

When you ask questions you stop your mind from creating conclusions. Conclusions are just the way of blocking and limiting you and others. Questions opens new possibilities and make space for continuity.

Ask and than listen! Just silent your mind and listen.

Don’t lie to yourself that you don’t know how to listen. You communicate with the whether, if it’s raining you take an umbrella. You communicate with a tree, if it’s in front of you, you avoid it. You communicate with a building, you respect the building by entering through the door, you are not destroying the walls to go inside. You communicate with people on the street by the way you walk, the way you dress and the way you address.

You know how to communicate, what you don’t know is that you communicate every second with all the choices you make. You communicate with the world when you stay home, by saying that you need to rest. You communicate with the world when you go out in the club by saying that you want to socialize, you communicate when you are silent, you communicate when you are noisy, you communicate when you dance, you communicate when you laugh or when you cry. You communicate when you cross feet or when you cross fingers. You communicate when you sleep. You are a communicator.

What are you transmitting to the world? What do you want people to see and perceive from you? What energy and consciousness you want to be for the world?